"After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and sharing a life
and you learn that love doesn't mean possesion
and company doesn't mean security
and loneliness is universal.
And you learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open
with the grace of a woman
not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build your hope on today
so the future has a way of falling apart in mid-flight
because tomorrow's ground
can be too uncertain for plans
yet each step taken in a new direction creates a path
towards the promises of a brighter dawn.
And you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and nourish your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that love, true love,
always has joys and sorrows
seems ever present, yet is never quite the same
becoming more than love and less than love
so difficult to define.
And you learn that through it all,
you really can endure, that
you really are strong, that you
do have value and you learn and grow
with every goodbye you learn."
My dearest friend German, gave me this on his birthday, when we celebrated
18 years of knowing each other.